Your bridal look is more than just the dress. All of the accessories, the shoes, the veil, your hair... its all part of that finished look. Today, I want to talk about your head. Veil or no veil, hair up or hair down. What kind of veil. These are all questions you will ask yourself as you put together your wedding day look.
To me, every bride should wear a veil of some sort. It doesn't have to be a cathedral length cloud of netting. A bird cage, a short veil at the back of your head, but some way to say- I am the bride and this is a special day. That being said, the type of veil you wear depends on the dress. But, here are some things I have observed over the years, some of the mistakes I have seen and some sound advice on choosing how your head will look when you walk down the aisle.
First, let's talk about hair. Up or down? Unless you have perfect hair that stays put and keeps its shape, wearing your hair down in your face is probably not the best decision. Its a long day and you want to look and feel fresh for all of it. If your curls are bedraggled by cocktail hour, that isn't a good thing. Consider pulling the front back into a braid or a crystal hair comb and then if your hair doesn't hold up,. at least it won't look like you forgot to comb it. My advice about bridal hair is to do something that looks like you, but better. Try a braid, a low bun at the nape of your neck, something that makes you feel special. Because- YOU ARE!
Veils come in all kinds of lengths and styles. They can be plain or adorned with crystals or lace. Mantillas, Juliet caps, just a billow of tulle down the back of your dress- and more. When you choose your veil, make sure it fits the feel of the dress and doesn't fight with the beading or the applique on your dress. However, if your dress is simple, perhaps you want to choose something that has embroidered flowers or a lace applique. Try different styles until you feel like the best YOU.
Once you have decided on a veil, your hair has to fit the style. So, if you have a specific style in mind before you purchase a veil, make sure that style compliments the veil. There is nothing attractive about an unembellished comb stuck in the back of your head. If you wear your hair down and want to just wear a veil with no ornamentation, try a mantilla. It sits flat on your head and looks finished. Another thing that I see is a veil that is placed too close to the face. Position your veil far enough back that is doesn't hide your pretty smile. And, again, if you don't want to have anything on the veil, choose a hairstyle that you can tuck the comb of the veil into so it doesn't look like an afterthought.
Finally, a note about blushers. A blusher is a totally unadorned layer of veil, usually detachable, that should come to about your bust. It is not the top layer of a multitiered veil and it should not have any lace or other decoration. It is also not a shroud. This is a very beautiful ethereal look, but how practical is it?
Discuss all of these things with the bridal salon when you are shopping. They will know what looks right. One last piece of advice- its much easier to choose a veil when you choose your dress, or at your first fitting, provided the veil is something that comes in quickly. Its very hard to get an idea on the whole picture in your jeans and a tee shirt.
Have more questions about your veil or your hair or- anything? Feel free to contact me. I am never too busy to answer a question. Happy Planning!